Even the most inspiring of leaders can, at times, lead you into circumstances that are stressful and discouraging or that leaves you feeling that not only is your boat not being floated - you are on the wrong boat!
So, let's take a look at how to manage your boss (and other difficult people in the workplace), and how to do it successfully.
- Walk A Mile In Your Boss's Shoes Do you know the pressures your boss is facing? Have you asked him/her what stresses/problems/challenges s/he is up against. You may or may not be able to help him/her with any of it, if you can then terrific go ahead and be part of his/her solution.
S/he will love you for it.
If you can't help, at least you'll be more understanding of why s/he is behaving the way they are.
Certainly this step isn't about making excuses for someone who is just downright mean and ornery. However, even bad tempered bosses are human. And, as a client said to me some time ago "Leadership can be lonely."
Your boss may be showing that bad-tempered side to hide all the fears and frustrations that are swirling around in his or her head like a beating drum. You taking a few moments to show that you care about his or her feelings, might be the turning point of your relationship.
Think about it for a moment, how do you feel when someone has reached out to you and shown that they have a concern for you? Are you more inclined to think kindly toward someone who cares about you and your success?
As John Maxwell said "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."
- Let Your Boss Know About Your Successes This doesn't mean running into his/her office every time you do something, but do make sure that you accurately and regularly communicate with your boss hurdles you've overcome and solutions you've implemented.
I often recommend to my clients to remember that part of their success is making sure that they market 'their' brand. That is, just like companies spend millions of $ marketing their company, so you too need to be a bit more deliberate about marketing yourself (because you are your business!). If you haven't already sign up for the free 11 part report and video series on how to Fast-Track Your Success As A High Performance Leader
- Set Boundaries Decide what you are willing to accept and not accept in terms of how your boss treats you. For example, you may decide "I'm okay with my boss making sarcastic comments, but I will not tolerate her shouting at me."Then get clear what you will do if your boss crosses that boundary.
This can be challenging, but very freeing. You can do anything from saying,
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